There is a finite number of times in life that you can truly consider your life as complete. Mostly, we lack a crucial element to making it whole, be it a satisfying career or that someone special to spend forever with. This post is focused primarily on the latter because I think it’s more difficult to find and just more interesting to post about.
Finding that special person is no easy task… Some wait, some desperately search, some steal, some borrow, and if you’re lucky enough to find that person, something else raises the stakes… Someone better (or at least the idea of someone better). Sure B is attractive, but this other person is more your type. Sure B has a sense of humor, but this person is more in your wavelength. Sure B is kind, but this other person is sweet. Oh, what a dilemma, right? You find yourself questioning if B is THE one… Maybe this other person is. Maybe it’s Destiny but with really bad timing. The maybes are endless.
There is no guidebook to this, I’m afraid, and I can’t definitively rule out any possibilities but in my own personal life, I’ve found that a ‘someone better’ mostly exists in one’s own imagination. Don’t get me wrong, this other person may be a good person too but this person will never be able to meet your expectations in the long run. Why you ask? It’s because this feeling you have of wanting someone ‘better’ is a fundamental flaw of any human being… We are never contented. We always want what isn’t ours and never appreciate what we already have.
Have you ever thought of the possibility that you can be replaced by someone better too? Of course you can! None are immune to this flaw, I’m afraid… But there is still hope. I have found that the happiest people I know learn to control this feeling. They learned to appreciate the flaws in their current partner and not look elsewhere for anything else. They realize that they too are flawed and these flaws are what makes them, well, Them. They work it out when there are problems, they don’t give up. They stick with it even when times are tough and at times, insurmountable. They don’t look elsewhere for relief, they find it in each other after the storm passes.
Indulging in the idea of a ‘someone better’ is dangerous and useless. It only adds to the feeling of restlessness and discontent that eventually leads to massive stupidity. Be grateful that someone loves you, flaws and all. Learn to appreciate what you have and you will be happy.